The definition of Intimacy is to relate closely, affectionately, and with deep understanding to the persons, places, and things in your life. The dictionary uses words like, ‘more closeness’, ‘understanding’, ‘touching’. My favorite synonym listed in Webster’s is ‘Chumminess’.
The level of Intimacy we practice daily can define the richness we experience in our lives. Many of us directly equate Intimacy with Sex, but the reality is that it may have nothing at all to do with Sex. The way we greet the day, talk to our children and pets, regard the home we live in and the gardens we nurture, all can be very intimate moments.
There are infinite levels of intimate relationships. Each level is as unique as the individual or situation we are sharing Intimacy with – from our children; to our environment; to our lover.
If we are blessed to have a partner who we love, Intimacy shared can make the world a magical place. When our personal relationships are in jeopardy, re-establishing Intimacy may be the healing ingredient.
The society that we are participating in offers many forms of placation – substances and situations that numb the soul. The demands of daily life often leave us with little time or energy to relate intimately with those around us – or so it might seem.
What is society but the social consciousness that we each practice with the other? Our actions and attitudes affect the world around us and its reaction to us. When we become intimate with our world, our world begins to change.
Living in Intimacy can introduce us to a whole array of feelings we may not be used to. It can make us feel vulnerable, passionate, caring, curious, warm and fuzzy, and/or totally aroused.
Many of us avoid Intimacy for this reason. One of the main purposes of the Human Experience is to FEEL. Emotions are what teach us and help us to create rich, fulfilling lives. When we’re not feeling, we are missing the point.
Practicing Intimacy in our daily lives includes becoming clear and authentic with ourselves. This can open us to deep emotion, vulnerability, and passion. Living passionately is not something many of us allow ourselves the freedom to experience. Cultivating the courage to live passionately is the first step to freedom. This profound way of being also creates an atmosphere which can affect and encourage those around us to do the same in their lives.
Ecstasy is Inherent
We were designed to be Ecstatic Creatures. We were built for it! We cannot, however, expect that Ecstasy will come to us if we are not creating a space for it in our lives. Intimacy is the key ingredient for that creation.
Start with yourself. Realize what an amazing individual you are and then expand your awareness to the world around you. We all long for this way of being and when we invite and nurture it, we find that it is inherent.
Our lives are fraught with stress, anxiety, and disconnection. Many of us are unaware of why this is detrimental, since we have never lived otherwise. I speak of and encourage Intimacy because I feel it is one of the first steps to bringing us back to wholeness.
Humans are designed to be powerfully emotional Beings and yet we are exposed daily to things that inhibit us and interfere with our ability to feel. Television, constant business, alcohol, and even food can keep us disconnected from ourselves.
People of all ages require Intimacy to thrive. Without it, we become disenchanted, disheartened, and destructive.
I encourage you to explore this so very important aspect of who we are – to perhaps recover the Intimacy that you have been lacking and would love to bring back to your life. We can do this for ourselves and for those we love. What greater gift can we offer or receive than to be completely in love with ourselves and our world?
And for those of us wanting to enhance our sex lives? Intimacy is the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac.
The main side effect? Ecstasy!
Connect with, Bless, and Love everyone you meet and everything you do.
This IS Intimacy!